As mission-minded, high vibin' Queens, we frequently set our minds to mastery. We focus our thoughts, we create those clear intentions, we check off that to-do list like a pro. I am right there with ya, sista!
BUT SOMETIMES, YOU HAVE A ROUGH DAY.
Doubt, fear, shame, guilt, some form of negative emotion arises (normally because you're right at a Breakthrough). Call it a bad day, call it low-vibes, whatever you call it, it sucks.
I used to dread the suck-days because I thought, "OMG I'm not manifesting abundance! I've got these negative emotions. That's sending mixed messages to my unconscious mind..."
AND DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE I WOULD GO.
Suppressing the negative emotions, denying that they're there is delusional. It's not your truth.
That's when unicorns, sparkles, rainbows, and airy-fairy bullshit start crowding your reality, pushing your dreams farther outside of you.
Ask any woman who has been through labor, and...
Wow, what a week it was. In training from 9-6AM learning how to teach my clients, both coaching and consulting, the only methodology in the world scientifically proven to predict your prospects buying behavior in 90 seconds. You can check it out here.
To top it off, the weekend before I was in a seminar series learning from some of the BEST coaches, teachers, and leaders...like multi-multi-millionaire kind of people. People like Tony Robbins’ VP of Business Strategy, Micheal Besson, Bill Walsh, and John Ferguson teaching some ADVANCED marketing, sales, and mindset material.
Even though I know my unconscious mind captured it all, having the tangible opportunity to hit the “refresh” button on all that juicy knowledge is super alluring. That’s why I wanted to give you my secret to remembering something…
Poof. And now it’s gone. ...
Ever wonder why #adulting seems soooo freakin' hard? BAD NEWS: Only you're making it that way.
Tony Robbins said it best, “Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give it.” So if you’re making #adulting hard…that’s all you, baby. The good news is, YOU have the power to change that. #Adulting is just a matter of perspective.
Consciously adding more play to your day seems ridiculous. But, next time you're busy #adultingsohard try it with a crown on, or while dancing, or by adding a wax monogram seal to your envelope...because you're THAT fancy.
Just play. How can you bring more joy to the mundane adult stuff? Even the uncomfortable stuff…like paying your bills.
Now, I know you’re thinking, have I seen your student loan debt? (EESH!) I get it. But, energy is fluid. If you're paying your bills with a negative...
I don't know about you, but absolutely, freaking LOOOOOOVE running. Like, passionately so. I'd take a good few miles in the breezy chill of October over chocolate cake any day. I fell in love after training for my first marathon back in 2011.
It was the LA Marathon with one of the lowest counts of people crossing the finish line...why? Because it was in a torrential downpour. Over 100 people got hypothermia...in Los Angeles. And I freaking did it. I was so proud. I never was a sports gal growing up (except for dance), so this random love of running sprung totally out of the blue. As my feet were pounding the slick pavement, I saw one sign that kept repeating for all 26.2 miles...
Just Do It.
Yeah, yeah, I know it's the Nike slogan. But, for some reason, around mile 9, it really hit me: just do it. As the sign repeated itself over and over, over the next 16.2 miles, I kept on
I ran right through the finish line, grabbed my medal, snapped a few photos and kept running four more...
One Sunday morning I rolled over in bed and did something unusual, I started scrolling through Facebook. A gut instinct told me to do it. I stumbled across a video that changed me. Picture this…
Combine the gloriousness of all that is Justin Timberlake and a man in a speedo with some serious moves groovin’ gloriously, and I got a killer confidence booster. If he was bold enough to not give a flyin’ leap what anybody thought, I shouldn’t either.
We all have moments where our confidence dips and dwindles. A mean comment. A nasty text. A failing grade. A bad relationship. Some moments last longer than others. After I was bought out of my first online business, I spent two years licking my wounds in my own little corner of surrender and defeat. I questioned my ability to do anything, even the stuff I knew I was good at.
With every new idea, with every new possibility and opportunity, I questioned...
I know in the midst of the holidays, life can get busy. Between family, friends, parties, presents, there’s a lot that goes on and usually our self-care regimen is the first thing to be put on the back burner until January. It’s just so much more snuggly to stay cozy in bed than to go for that morning run, right?
You’re normally on your game with your self-care routine.
Maybe you’re not 100% every week perfect. But you get in your stretching, your workouts, your regular manicures, and occasionally indulge in a massage or a facial when you feel you need it bad enough.
The thing is, while practicing that self-care routine is great, it’s all external.
You can do the tasks. You can hit your workouts. You can get your mani-pedis on the reg, but if you’re missing the internal self-care those tasks are just a brief boost of endorphins. Kind of like watching a motivational video on Facebook. You feel good for a minute, maybe even an hour, but after that...
I’ve been meditating a lot on putting myself at Cause. You see, you always have a choice. Even when you think you don’t have a choice, you have a choice. Just because you don’t like the alternative choices available, doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice.
You can choose to take a stand. And you can choose to fall.
This week I chose to stand up for how I will allow myself and my family to be treated. Over the past three years I’ve cut several people completely out of my life - a partner, several boyfriends, a bridesmaid. They crossed my boundaries.
It sounds selfish, and it was. I totally cop to it. But that’s what boundaries are.
Boundaries are selfish. But, being selfish has got a bad rap.
As a coach of Neurolinguistic Programming, let’s take a look linguistically at what being “selfish” really is. While the term “ish” has had some urban alterations like meaning an issue of a magazine and as a euphemism for...
Motivation dies quickly. You go to a workshop, take a seminar, watch a webinar. And for that day you’re feeling pretty pumped! You’ve got all these ideas flowing, and everything seems like it’s jiving. Maybe you even go home and make a list of all the stuff you’re going to get done, and all your goals for the entire year, and all your dreams. You start scrolling through Pinterest, crafting the perfect vision board of everything you want, desire, and dream of in your life.
Then tomorrow comes.
And that whole idea you had to wake up at 5AM and workout seems a bit…well, hard. Maybe you had your 4-month old woke you up a few times throughout the night. Maybe you were so pumped that you didn’t fall asleep till 12PM because you were too busy crafting that Pinterest dream board. Maybe it’s just freaking early…and cold…and your tired...and those covers just feel so damn good. And all that motivation dies right under the covers, and you...
There’s a huge difference between being busy and actually getting shit done. But at the end of the month, when you look at your bank account, or your BMI, or your calendar full of date nights (or lack thereof)...
How much has your BUSY-ness pushed you up that ladder toward where you want to be?
In 10 years of working with people, whether it was teaching Pilates or Coaching, let me tell you, being “too busy” is not an original excuse. It didn’t matter whether my client was a housewife with two grown children in college, or a partner at one of the top law firms in the country, every single woman thought she was busy. Too busy to work out. Too busy to take on another project. Too busy to go on a date. Too busy to meditate. Being “too busy” is a popular perception to have.
No one wants to think of themselves as lazy. (Even if their results say that they are.)
So, how do you ensure that your BUSY-Ness and your results are in alignment?
NO. 1 - Connect...
A while back, my inbox was a black hole of "important" info and urgency.
I was an executive in a national online startup and we were hustling to get the business off the ground. 4 AM urgent emails filled my inbox, dripping with panic about the website not being perfect or the latest email having copy editing errors. 11 PM emails about new strategies to implement, new marketing tactics to try, where our sales conversions were, and our sales projections. I felt like a madwoman subscribing to every marketing and business building webinar imaginable. I would wake up shaking in the middle of the night wondering if I'd missed something if I'd set the latest sales to funnel up correctly, if I had a typo in tomorrow's social media posts.
Your inbox is a precious space of your energy. It is a direct reflection of what's going on inside you.
And what was going on inside of me was nothing good. I was filled with negative emotions - fear, doubt, frustration. My hair started falling out from...