My son has this new scream that kind of sounds like bloody-murder, like someone had starved and deprived him of everything he ever loved, soul-curdling. It’s a SAW 10 worthy of a scream.
When really...
It’s just a fart.
And when I hear that little noisy poof of air, after the massive build-up of emotion, fear, stress, and anxiety, I have to laugh.
Our perceptions filter what is. Our reality is not reality itself. It’s our conscious reality, yes, but is it the reality? No. It’s what we perceive it to be our reality.
We can wail and scream at it...and usually, we do. (Let’s be honest.) Because that’s what we’ve learned to do since infancy. You were never taught another option, another resource, to change our response.
Until now.
Joseph Campbell said, “The meaning of life is what you ascribe to it.”
How much meaning are...
Big butts may be good for Sir Mixalot, but a big ‘but’ can curtail your communication and have big consequences. No, I don’t mean junk-in-the-trunk kind of butts, but 'but'…you know…the word.
You look nice in that dress…but…
You did a great job with this project…but…
I love you…but…
OUCH.
You can already feel it. And as you know, when there's a battle between thought and feeling, feeling wins. Every time.
Whether a big or little 'but' is in the way, our emotional response is to ignore everything that went before the 'but’ and to focus only on what comes after it.
And, it's like a flashing warning signal that a really important point is coming up.
‘But’ is one of the most commonly misused words in the...
As mission-minded, high vibin' Queens, we frequently set our minds to mastery. We focus our thoughts, we create those clear intentions, we check off that to-do list like a pro. I am right there with ya, sista!
BUT SOMETIMES, YOU HAVE A ROUGH DAY.
Doubt, fear, shame, guilt, some form of negative emotion arises (normally because you're right at a Breakthrough). Call it a bad day, call it low-vibes, whatever you call it, it sucks.
I used to dread the suck-days because I thought, "OMG I'm not manifesting abundance! I've got these negative emotions. That's sending mixed messages to my unconscious mind..."
AND DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE I WOULD GO.
Suppressing the negative emotions, denying that they're there is delusional. It's not your truth.
That's when unicorns, sparkles, rainbows, and airy-fairy bullshit start crowding your reality, pushing your dreams farther outside of you.
Ask any woman who has been through labor, and...
Wow, what a week it was. In training from 9-6AM learning how to teach my clients, both coaching and consulting, the only methodology in the world scientifically proven to predict your prospects buying behavior in 90 seconds. You can check it out here.
To top it off, the weekend before I was in a seminar series learning from some of the BEST coaches, teachers, and leaders...like multi-multi-millionaire kind of people. People like Tony Robbins’ VP of Business Strategy, Micheal Besson, Bill Walsh, and John Ferguson teaching some ADVANCED marketing, sales, and mindset material.
Even though I know my unconscious mind captured it all, having the tangible opportunity to hit the “refresh” button on all that juicy knowledge is super alluring. That’s why I wanted to give you my secret to remembering something…
It’s BIG!!!!
Poof. And now it’s gone. ...
Ever wonder why #adulting seems soooo freakin' hard? BAD NEWS: Only you're making it that way.
Tony Robbins said it best, “Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give it.” So if you’re making #adulting hard…that’s all you, baby. The good news is, YOU have the power to change that. #Adulting is just a matter of perspective.
Consciously adding more play to your day seems ridiculous. But, next time you're busy #adultingsohard try it with a crown on, or while dancing, or by adding a wax monogram seal to your envelope...because you're THAT fancy.
Just play. How can you bring more joy to the mundane adult stuff? Even the uncomfortable stuff…like paying your bills.
Now, I know you’re thinking, have I seen your student loan debt? (EESH!) I get it. But, energy is fluid. If you're paying your bills with a negative...
I’ve been meditating a lot on putting myself at Cause. You see, you always have a choice. Even when you think you don’t have a choice, you have a choice. Just because you don’t like the alternative choices available, doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice.
You can choose to take a stand. And you can choose to fall.
This week I chose to stand up for how I will allow myself and my family to be treated. Over the past three years I’ve cut several people completely out of my life - a partner, several boyfriends, a bridesmaid. They crossed my boundaries.
It sounds selfish, and it was. I totally cop to it. But that’s what boundaries are.
Boundaries are selfish. But, being selfish has got a bad rap.
As a coach of Neurolinguistic Programming, let’s take a look linguistically at what being “selfish” really is. While the term “ish” has had some urban alterations like meaning an issue of a magazine and as a euphemism for...
One Sunday morning I rolled over in bed and did something unusual, I started scrolling through Facebook. A gut instinct told me to do it. I stumbled across a video that changed me. Picture this…
Combine the gloriousness of all that is Justin Timberlake and a man in a speedo with some serious moves groovin’ gloriously, and I got a killer confidence booster. If he was bold enough to not give a flyin’ leap what anybody thought, I shouldn’t either.
We all have moments where our confidence dips and dwindles. A mean comment. A nasty text. A failing grade. A bad relationship. Some moments last longer than others. After I was bought out of my first online business, I spent two years licking my wounds in my own little corner of surrender and defeat. I questioned my ability to do anything, even the stuff I knew I was good at.
With every new idea, with every new possibility and opportunity, I questioned...
I know in the midst of the holidays, life can get busy. Between family, friends, parties, presents, there’s a lot that goes on and usually our self-care regimen is the first thing to be put on the back burner until January. It’s just so much more snuggly to stay cozy in bed than to go for that morning run, right?
You’re normally on your game with your self-care routine.
Maybe you’re not 100% every week perfect. But you get in your stretching, your workouts, your regular manicures, and occasionally indulge in a massage or a facial when you feel you need it bad enough.
The thing is, while practicing that self-care routine is great, it’s all external.
You can do the tasks. You can hit your workouts. You can get your mani-pedis on the reg, but if you’re missing the internal self-care those tasks are just a brief boost of endorphins. Kind of like watching a motivational video on Facebook. You feel good for a minute, maybe even an hour, but after that...
Motivation dies quickly. You go to a workshop, take a seminar, watch a webinar. And for that day you’re feeling pretty pumped! You’ve got all these ideas flowing, and everything seems like it’s jiving. Maybe you even go home and make a list of all the stuff you’re going to get done, and all your goals for the entire year, and all your dreams. You start scrolling through Pinterest, crafting the perfect vision board of everything you want, desire, and dream of in your life.
Then tomorrow comes.
And that whole idea you had to wake up at 5AM and workout seems a bit…well, hard. Maybe you had your 4-month old woke you up a few times throughout the night. Maybe you were so pumped that you didn’t fall asleep till 12PM because you were too busy crafting that Pinterest dream board. Maybe it’s just freaking early…and cold…and your tired...and those covers just feel so damn good. And all that motivation dies right under the covers, and you...
I don't know about you, but absolutely, freaking LOOOOOOVE running. Like, passionately so. I'd take a good few miles in the breezy chill of October over chocolate cake any day. I fell in love after training for my first marathon back in 2011.
It was the LA Marathon with one of the lowest counts of people crossing the finish line...why? Because it was in a torrential downpour. Over 100 people got hypothermia...in Los Angeles. And I freaking did it. I was so proud. I never was a sports gal growing up (except for dance), so this random love of running sprung totally out of the blue. As my feet were pounding the slick pavement, I saw one sign that kept repeating for all 26.2 miles...
Just Do It.
Yeah, yeah, I know it's the Nike slogan. But, for some reason, around mile 9, it really hit me: just do it. As the sign repeated itself over and over, over the next 16.2 miles, I kept on
I ran right through the finish line, grabbed my medal, snapped a few photos and kept running four more...
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