Hi, I’m Kimberly Spencer, and I’ve been addicted to doing. 

I’m a do-er. 

Most of the people I work with are do-ers. In fact, it’s hard to get us to NOT do. There is always something to do. A neverending to-do list of “shoulds” and “supposed to’s.” 

TO BE HONEST, WE LOVE THE HUSTLE, THE THRILL OF RISING INTO A CHALLENGE, THE TESTING OF OUR LIMITS TO SEE JUST HOW HARD WE CAN PUSH OURSELVES.

Can we possibly push ourselves farther, longer, harder, to that edge, and maybe even a little past it that feels like our breaking point?

Probably. 

Eventually, though, doing replaces who we be. 

When you become the do-er, you become the taskmaster of your soul, instead of allowing your Sovereign Self to shine. 

Doing becomes a distraction.

Doing can even become an addiction. 

Addicted to the rush of having so much on your plate. 

Addicted to the feelings of overwhelm.

Addicted to always have more to do. MORE! MORE! 

That’s what we’re made for, right? More. Rachel Hollis says so. 

High ...

Faith and fear are basically the same things - it’s a BELIEF in something that HAS NOT YET HAPPENED coming true and yet, believing with CERTAINTY that that which has not happened yet, will happen. 

And both are like a compass.

One is pointed in the direction of what you want.

The other is pointed in the direction of what you don’t want. 

If you’re stuck in worry…

If you’re in the shadows of doubt…

If you’re fearing the next big thing, the next leap, moving forward…

Have no fear, for you are in faith.

…Wait, what?

Stick with me on this…

It’s just the arrow of your compass is focused on what you don’t want.

It’s focused on what you regret.

It’s focused on past experiences or “evidence” that is backing up the certainty you have. 

It’s focused on all the things that you DON’T WANT. 

So it’s signaling those warning signs in your brain of “Fear! Fear! Fear! Fear!”

And your biological hardwiring - that has a natural propensity to seek out danger - is looking for all the things ...

What do you do when an idea “lands”? When it comes into the port of your mind, do you strap it in, tie it down? Or do you let it dock there, but don’t claim it as part of your fleet?

IDEAS ARE LIKE CHANCES.

They are dreams to be seized.

They are visions to be realized.

They are possibilities to be honed, sharpened, and beautified.

They are money to be received. 

But, when you don’t lock them in - when you delay or doubt yourself (causing more delay), the idea just floats there, out somewhere at sea, and eventually, it floats off, to find a new more accommodating port.

There’s a children’s book series that is my absolute favorite, and one of the books is What Do You Do with a Chance. (Seriously, even if you don’t have kids, get this book. I recommend it to my adult clients.) 

In it, the child leaps to take a chance but misses and falls. He starts not taking chances and the more he doesn’t take chances, the more he doesn’t see what chances are available to him.

That’s the thing ...

One of the greatest gifts I was ever given was the blessing of working 10+ hours a day, 6 days a week, for 4 years with thousands of Pilates clients back when I was just 20 years old. 

You see, back then, I was in the throes of bulimia, rollercoaster dieting, trying to save my own life and I found this ONE tool - Pilates - that was a complete and total gamechanger.

Not only because Pilates activates and trains your parasympathetic nervous system, so for those who have had trauma in their past, operating in fight/flight mode all the time, in states of high or chronic anxiety - yeah, Pilates helps tell your sympathetic nervous system to chill TF out….

(And mine needed to back then, like a mofo.)

But also because teaching Pilates exposed me every day to 10 different humans a day, meaning 10 different belief systems a day, 10 different ways of BEING a day. 

It allowed me to discover that there is no “right” way to do life - there’s just your way, or the way you’ve been taught, conditi...

There have been moments - I will totally OWN it - when I have thought:

"God, it would have been soooo much easier had I really started growing my business without having kids!"⁠

I would have had so much more time.⁠

I could have made so much more money.⁠

I wouldn't have had to struggle so much in the beginning.⁠

And down the woulda-coulda-shoulda rabbit hole, I would go.⁠

Here's the truth of it though...⁠

Had it been my path to build a real, transformative, money-making business with no children, I would have.⁠

It wasn't.⁠

I would have kept going, stumbling and fumbling around in the dark, throwing spaghetti at a wall, pretending to be a #bossbabe with my business cards that said "CEO" on them and my fancy, expensive website, but I wouldn't have had the NECESSITY or the URGENCY to change. ⁠

For me, my kids have been my GREATEST motivators. ⁠

Declan gave me the spark of COURAGE to get certified in NLP, Time Line Therapy, and hypnosis, even though it wasn’t the right time, I di...

If you had told me 15 years ago, back when I was struggling with bulimia that I'd take a picture like this at the heaviest weight I've ever been (not that weight matters, obvi, I know I'm pregnant) and told me that I would actually FEEL BEAUTIFUL, I would have thought you were nuts.

Yet, here I am. 

Sparkly, full of baby, and so grateful for this life. 

In fact, never have I ever felt this beautiful (with a SLIGHT emphasis on the -FUL part 😂  because, hot dang - holy baby belly!)

AFTER HAVING CARRIED LIFE INSIDE OF ME ONCE, AND GROWING A SECOND, I REALLY COULD GIVE LESS THAN TWO FUCKS ABOUT WHAT ANYONE THINKS, COMMENTS, OR SAYS ABOUT MY BODY. 

I am carrying something so much greater than a perfectly toned tummy. 

Life, creation, lives and is growing in me right now.

But you don’t have to be pregnant to feel that. 

FOR ME, BEING PREGNANT IS THE PERSONIFICATION OF THE DIVINE CREATIVE ESSENCE OF THE UNIVERSE, LIVING AND GROWING, BREATHING IN ME, THROUGH ME, USING ME TO BECOME REAL...

After my mom sat on me when I was 16-years old, pinning me down in the hallway as I fought her relentlessly to go puke my food out, and essentially saving my life (thanks mom!), I had the wake-up call I needed as she screamed at me “I love you, Kim, I’m not going to let you kill yourself!”

I realized was on the slow path to suicide - because that’s what all eating disorders are. I didn’t want to die. But I didn’t know how to live. 

I didn’t have the HOW, but I had the WHO.

My mom. 

I had someone else who was rooting for me to succeed in my quest to live healthily and whole, a quest that would take me 5 more years to fully recover from.

But I did.

And the advice that got me through...

"Be kind to yourself," she said. ⁠

Bulimia.⁠

Perfectionism.⁠

Self-sabotage.⁠

Apathy.

Rebellion.

It showed up in ALL areas of my life, from my body to my relationships to my bank account to my business.⁠

Do you know what had to change? 

Me. ⁠

I had to learn how to be kinder to myself.

I had...

I was asked recently on a podcast what I think is the most insidious problem facing the world today. In one word I said this, “BLAME.”

YOU SEE, BLAME IS A RESULT. ⁠

It's the effect.⁠

And it causes more shitty results. ⁠

It gets you stuck in a cycle of being either the victim of your circumstances or the villain of your life, swinging the pendulum back and forth, but never actually gaining momentum forward.⁠

Blame is a natural, and biological response. 

In fact, in my upcoming book, Rule Your Body (which you can totally pre-order now BTW), I dive deep into this “just world bias” of blame.

We as humans naturally have a desire to see things as “fair.” You hear it all the time if you have a toddler - “That’s not...what?” You got it: “fair.”

OUR BRAINS SEEK TO MAKE SENSE OF THE INSENSIBLE. WHEN THINGS DON’T SEEM FAIR OR “RIGHT” WE TRY TO FIND WAYS TO JUSTIFY (AKA “MAKE JUST” OR “WAYS TO BLAME”) IN ORDER TO MAKE SENSE OF THE WORLD.

This is how you get the ridiculous “reasons” of peo...

Can we just take a hot second to celebrate how awesome YOU are?

You and all your quirks...that make you unique, special, and one-of-a-kind.

You and all your mistakes...that you're learning from every day.
You and all your successes...that make you a freaking badass at what you do!

You and all your faults...that strengthen your self-compassion and your immense empathy for others.

YOU AND ALL YOUR JOYS...THAT RADIATE THE CONTAGION OF HAPPINESS.

You and all your roles...that you probably need to give yourself a lot more credit for (if we're being honest here.)

The number one reason most of my clients come to work with me is NOT that they want to build a business. 

It's NOT for my strategies, or my systems, or my digital nomad, have two babies, live in Australian lifestyle. ⁠

It’s NOT that they want to even make more money (although they always do want to).

The number ONE REASON why my clients come to me is this:

It's for FREEDOM + EASE.⁠

Here's the thing...⁠

Freedom and ease are a BYPRODUCT of your choices. ⁠

You CHOOSE to have freedom when you CHOOSE to end your workday after 6 hours.⁠

You CHOOSE to have ease when you take care of the things that have been burning a hole in your brain instead of letting them fester.⁠

You CHOOSE to do what you want when you fucking DECIDE you're doing what you want when you want...like me taking my kiddo out for a midday swim, sun and sand time at our pool.⁠

If your CHOICES don't back your intention (aka - the desire to have FREEDOM + EASE), THAT is when you feel stuck.⁠

That is when things feel h...