Do you put off projects until something else occurs? Has your list of project grown longer and longer, and yet felt farther and farther away? But, is there an itching, burning, stinging sensation in your fingertips to just continue scrolling through Facebook and Instagram?
Youâre not alone. Â In fact, itâs quite common.
All humans have suffered from âIâll Do I.T. Whenâ Syndrome at some point in their lives. Symptoms include dreaming audaciously large dreams and yet not making any forward progress, lacking motivation, desiring things other people have, constantly seeking new opportunities, project lists, and backlogs of unfinished self-study courses.
I.T. must happen in order to achieve a certain outcome, accomplish a specific goal, or complete a project or task.
Consult with your coach if you think you may be suffering from a case of âIâll Do I.T. Whenâ Syndrome, or if...
My son has this new scream that kind of sounds like bloody-murder, like someone had starved and deprived him of everything he ever loved, soul-curdling. Itâs a SAW 10 worthy of a scream.Â
When really...
Itâs just a fart.
And when I hear that little noisy poof of air, after the massive build-up of emotion, fear, stress, and anxiety, I have to laugh.
Our perceptions filter what is. Our reality is not reality itself. Itâs our conscious reality, yes, but is it the reality? No. Itâs what we perceive it to be our reality.
We can wail and scream at it...and usually, we do. (Letâs be honest.) Because thatâs what weâve learned to do since infancy. You were never taught another option, another resource, to change our response.
Until now.
Joseph Campbell said, âThe meaning of life is what you ascribe to it.â
How much meaning are you putting into something thatâs just gas? And what emotiona...
Big butts may be good for Sir Mixalot, but a big âbutâ can curtail your communication and have big consequences. No, I donât mean junk-in-the-trunk kind of butts, but 'but'âŚyou knowâŚthe word.
You look nice in that dressâŚbutâŚ
You did a great job with this projectâŚbutâŚ
I love youâŚbutâŚ
OUCH.
You can already feel it. And as you know, when there's a battle between thought and feeling, feeling wins. Every time.Â
Whether a big or little 'but' is in the way, our emotional response is to ignore everything that went before the 'butâ and to focus only on what comes after it.Â
And, it's like a flashing warning signal that a really important point is coming up.Â
âButâ is one of the most commonly misused words in the English language. Itâs normally used with the intention of being helpful, but what happens is it can actually create the op...
As mission-minded, high vibin' Queens, we frequently set our minds to mastery. We focus our thoughts, we create those clear intentions, we check off that to-do list like a pro. I am right there with ya, sista!
BUT SOMETIMES, YOU HAVE A ROUGH DAY.
Doubt, fear, shame, guilt, some form of negative emotion arises (normally because you're right at a Breakthrough). Call it a bad day, call it low-vibes, whatever you call it, it sucks.
I used to dread the suck-days because I thought, "OMG I'm not manifesting abundance! I've got these negative emotions. That's sending mixed messages to my unconscious mind..."
AND DOWN THE RABBIT HOLE I WOULD GO.
Suppressing the negative emotions, denying that they're there is delusional. It's not your truth.
That's when unicorns, sparkles, rainbows, and airy-fairy bullshit start crowding your reality, pushing your dreams farther outside of you.
Ask any woman who has been through labor, a...
Wow, what a week it was. In training from 9-6AM learning how to teach my clients, both coaching and consulting, the only methodology in the world scientifically proven to predict your prospects buying behavior in 90 seconds. You can check it out here.
To top it off, the weekend before I was in a seminar series learning from some of the BEST coaches, teachers, and leaders...like multi-multi-millionaire kind of people. People like Tony Robbinsâ VP of Business Strategy, Micheal Besson, Bill Walsh, and John Ferguson teaching some ADVANCED marketing, sales, and mindset material.
Even though I know my unconscious mind captured it all, having the tangible opportunity to hit the ârefreshâ button on all that juicy knowledge is super alluring. Thatâs why I wanted to give you my secret to remembering somethingâŚ
Itâs BIG!!!!
Poof. And now itâs gone.Â
Why? Because I told you NOT to forget it.
Ever wonder why #adulting seems soooo freakin' hard? BAD NEWS: Only you're making it that way.Â
Tony Robbins said it best, âNothing in life has any meaning except the meaning you give it.â So if youâre making #adulting hardâŚthatâs all you, baby. The good news is, YOU have the power to change that. #Adulting is just a matter of perspective.Â
Consciously adding more play to your day seems ridiculous. But, next time you're busy #adultingsohard try it with a crown on, or while dancing, or by adding a wax monogram seal to your envelope...because you're THAT fancy.
Just play. How can you bring more joy to the mundane adult stuff? Even the uncomfortable stuffâŚlike paying your bills.
Now, I know youâre thinking, have I seen your student loan debt? (EESH!) I get it. But, energy is fluid. If you're paying your bills with a negative attitude, you're curtailing the infi...
A while back, my inbox was a black hole of "important" info and urgency.
I was an executive in a national online startup and we were hustling to get the business off the ground. 4 AM urgent emails filled my inbox, dripping with panic about the website not being perfect or the latest email having copy editing errors. 11 PM emails about new strategies to implement, new marketing tactics to try, where our sales conversions were, and our sales projections. I felt like a madwoman subscribing to every marketing and business building webinar imaginable. I would wake up shaking in the middle of the night wondering if I'd missed something if I'd set the latest sales to funnel up correctly, if I had a typo in tomorrow's social media posts.
Your inbox is a precious space of your energy. It is a direct reflection of what's going on inside you.
And what was going on inside of me was nothing good. I was filled with negative emotions - fear, doubt, frustration. My hair started falling out from stress ...
Donât tell my husband, but Iâm addictedâŚto Battlestar Galactica. It would make him far too happy that Iâve converted to the âdark sideâ and fallen into a special love with this sci-fi series. I could say itâs because of itâs heavy NLP influence - lessons like perception is projection, cause > effect, and the power of the unconscious mind - permeates the show.
But, really, itâs just damn good entertainment.Â
In one episode, Colonel Tigh, the local drunk, prevents one of Admiral Adamasâs former fighter pilots from killing him. You see, this pilot had been left for dead by Adama on covert mission years ago against the Cylons, and mysteriously returned years later. Turns out he was captured by the Cylons, and, after they wiped out all of humanity (except for the fleet of the Battlestar Galactica), they let this viper pilot go, knowing that he had a vendetta against the Admiral for leaving him behindâŚfor dead. So he tried to kill him.Â
Thankfully, Colonel Tigh steps out of his drunken stupor ...
I don't know about you, but absolutely, freaking LOOOOOOVE running. Like, passionately so. I'd take a good few miles in the breezy chill of October over chocolate cake any day. I fell in love after training for my first marathon back in 2011.Â
It was the LA Marathon with one of the lowest counts of people crossing the finish line...why? Because it was in a torrential downpour. Over 100 people got hypothermia...in Los Angeles. And I freaking did it. I was so proud. I never was a sports gal growing up (except for dance), so this random love of running sprung totally out of the blue. As my feet were pounding the slick pavement, I saw one sign that kept repeating for all 26.2 miles...
Just Do It.
Yeah, yeah, I know it's the Nike slogan. But, for some reason, around mile 9, it really hit me: just do it. As the sign repeated itself over and over, over the next 16.2 miles, I kept on
I ran right through the finish line, grabbed my medal, snapped a few photos and kept running four more blocks to th...
Motivation dies quickly. You go to a workshop, take a seminar, watch a webinar. And for that day youâre feeling pretty pumped! Youâve got all these ideas flowing, and everything seems like itâs jiving. Maybe you even go home and make a list of all the stuff youâre going to get done, and all your goals for the entire year, and all your dreams. You start scrolling through Pinterest, crafting the perfect vision board of everything you want, desire, and dream of in your life.
Then tomorrow comes.
And that whole idea you had to wake up at 5AM and workout seems a bitâŚwell, hard. Maybe you had your 4-month old woke you up a few times throughout the night. Maybe you were so pumped that you didnât fall asleep till 12PM because you were too busy crafting that Pinterest dream board. Maybe itâs just freaking earlyâŚand coldâŚand your tired...and those covers just feel so damn good. And all that motivation dies right under the covers, and you go back to doing the same olâ thing.
Willpower is highly over...
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