I took a french fry from Declan’s plate. He looked at me with a combination of determination and fear, “No mama. That’s my fry.”

I smiled. He’s been going through this “my” phase. He thinks me sharing with him is him sharing with me. 

Is three the age that the ego comes into play?

Anyway...

I looked at him and smiled, waving the fry in the air, “We can always get more,” I said as I bit into the crispy warm exterior and felt the soothing steam of potato.

Maybe that french fry was magical?

Maybe it was in my delivery?

But something clicked. 

Decky smiled, “We can always get more,” he said, practically throwing the line away, claiming it as his own.

Now anytime he shares with me, or I share with him, he says…

“We can always get more.”

It got me thinking - 

Is a scarcity mindset born or bred?

Or both. 

Scientists studied three generations of mice. In the first generation, the mouse...

I’m going to level with you here…

Ownership sometimes sucks.

It’s no fun to be wrong.

To make a mistake.

To f*up.

To fight fires...that YOU created. 

And I do it...daily. 

But…

You've gotta OWN IT.

Growth requires challenge, stress, and pushing past your perception of what is possible.

Sometimes that means that you won’t know what it means to go too far or to do too much until you’ve done it.

Because you’re heading into the unknown and that means you won’t know something until you know it, you know?

Just like with the body, sometimes you don’t know how sore you’re going to be in the middle of working out...but tomorrow or the next day, boy! Do you know. 

You feel the soreness from having pushed beyond your edge. 

Maybe that means you hold off on going back to the gym for a couple of days because your hamstrings are just shredded. 

Or maybe it just means you do a really light gentle stretch workout...

If you listen to the news or scroll through Facebook you probably see countless reports on unemployment and how people are out of work, layoffs, and stories of struggle and suffering economically. 

Not my clients, though!

In one week, three of my private clients GREW their teams!!! 

That’s 4 more jobs that were created BECAUSE they chose to do the work that it takes to grow their business and to do it in their genius zone. 

THIS is the power of one, having a growing business, and two, being a badass entrepreneur who chooses to do business smartly by NOT doing it all yourself. 

Here’s the thing…

The struggle, the suffering, and the hours and hours of busy-work…

IS NOT REQUIRED. 

Let me say it again for the cheap seats in the back…

YOU DON’T GET EXTRA CREDIT FOR SUFFERING THROUGH HOURS UPON HOURS OF BUSY-WORK.

In fact, I have seen time and time again that the MORE time you spend in your Zone of Genius the MORE money you...

“IT’S HOW YOU THINK ABOUT YOUR BODY!” I MARVELED WHEN I HAD THIS REVELATION. 

When I first started teaching Pilates back when I was still bulimic, I worked with hundreds of bodies and I saw that it didn’t matter whether you were technically fat or technically thin, whether you worked out 5 days a week or once a month, or whether you ate healthily or you didn’t…

WHAT MATTERED WAS HOW YOU THOUGHT ABOUT YOUR BODY - THE STORY THAT YOU TOLD YOURSELF ABOUT WHY YOU HAD OR DIDN’T HAVE THE RESULTS YOU WANTED. 

Now, as a business owner, I see the exact same pattern with the leaders I work with and the results (aka income) they’re bringing in.

IT’S ABOUT THE STORY YOU’RE TELLING YOURSELF ABOUT WHY YOU HAVE OR DON’T HAVE THE RESULTS YOU WANT. 

Why is it that most small businesses fail in the first 3 years? It comes down to one thing - the mindset of the leader. And that ripples into the skillsets they acquire, the...

“Who do you admire?” I asked my client.

“Well...Tony Robbins, Rachel Hollis, You, Brendon Burchard.” 

I stopped in my tracks. Just to be listed among that list of my mentors - I mean,  words of affirmation are my love language, and I received an avalanche at that moment. Holy moly. “Receive it. Receive it,” I thought. I did and then from that place I asked her…

“Why? What is it you admire them?”

“BECAUSE THEY INSPIRE LEADERS.”

So many people out there are so busy counting how many followers they have - do I have more or fewer followers? 

Yet, “influencers” with audiences, or at least follower counts way bigger than mine are broke and struggling to monetize their audience - struggling to make even 4-figures a month, let alone five. 

...But they’ve got a FOLLOWING.

And that’s the problem.

WHEN YOU CREATE A CULTURE OF FOLLOWING IN YOUR BUSINESS - YOU AS THE “GURU”...

Do you live for those precious morning hours? Do you love the smell of the crisp, fresh morning air when it’s still dark out?

If you had told me when I was 16 that I would easily be waking up at 4:15 every morning...and LOVE it...I would have said you’re on something.

Back then I was a total night owl.

Burn the midnight oil!

That was my motto. 

My best friend and I would jokingly, and kind of seriously call each other late in the evening with questions about school projects. Sometimes we’d just call each other in solidarity of working together past midnight...even if we weren’t working on the same project.

Then, there was a time in between when I first started teaching Pilates where I tried to do both early mornings with 6 AM clients and late nights at networking events in Hollywood or pounding away on my keyboard writing the latest draft of a screenplay. Sure, I’d take a siesta in between. And that worked through my twenties, but not so much now...

HOW TO FIND A ROUTINE THAT FEELS BEST FOR YOU

“The early bird gets the worm.”

“Early to bed early to rise makes a man (or woman) healthy, wealthy, and wise.”

I could go on and on with a slew of morning routine quotes and cliches (hey, they’re cliches for a reason) about how important taking some time for yourself in the mornings can be. 

Here’s the thing…

It doesn’t matter whether you roll out of bed, into your clothes, to then go about your day, or you wake up every morning like a Stepfordpreneur at 4:30 AM to be at the gym in full hair and makeup by 5 AM, or if you’re militaristic about your harsh morning routine of black coffee, cold showers, and perfectly made beds. 

ALL OF THOSE ARE ROUTINES.

For me, I’ve tried at least 4,635 types of morning routines.

They’ve evolved as the demands of my life have changed. 

In high school, I was 100% asleep till the last minute, “Just five more minutes,...

Ever had the belief that you couldn’t be ALL of yourself? That you had to hide some part of you in order to bring in customers or charge higher prices or do anything in your business?

YEAH, FOR ME THAT WAS WITH PILATES. 

When I made the shift from Pilates into solely High-Performance Coaching. Pilates was like the ex-husband I didn’t want to talk about or have anyone know about because I had the belief that it would somehow make me “less qualified” as a coach. Pshaw.

Ridiculous, right? 

Isn’t it funny how our egos can trick us with silly little lies?

It wasn’t until this lockdown started that I came to terms and realized - Pilates WAS my coaching training ground.

I put in my 10,000+ hours teaching Pilates. 

I LEARNED HOW TO COACH, TEACH, TRAIN, LEAD, WITH PILATES. 

I trained and coached hundreds and hundreds of bodies over the 13 years I taught.

I learned how to listen on a deeper level beyond the words to the tiny micro-muscle...