Iâll never forget holding that bouquet of pregnancy tests in my hand. Iâd peed four times to make sure it wasnât a fluke. It couldnât be, right? This was supposed to be hard for me? No. Nope. I was pregnant. Oh. My. God. I was paralyzed with fear and Iâd like to say excitement, but really it was mostly fear. I walked out of our bathroom with the awful medical green tile into our yellow padded voice over studio. It felt appropriate to deliver the news in a padded room.Â
Spike was on the phone with one of his investors. As I stand there without saying anything, my handshaking with the sticks, immobilized. âHoly shit,â I thought to myself, âThis is happening.â Spike noticed me in the doorframe and mouthed âYouâre pregnant?â I could barely manage a nod.Â
Iâll never forget the smile that grew across that manâs face. I had to borrow that confidence because I was freaking terrified.
Iâd put the title of âMomâ on a pedestal.Â
CEO, president, business owner...been there, done that.
 But âM...
I was on a consult call the other week with a self-employed solopreneur who was eager to grow her business and her online presence.
âBut,â she said, âI donât have a team. I donât have good lighting for videos. I barely even have a good enough phone.â She continued to list the things she didnât have, âI donât have a big following. I barely have a list. I donât have...I donât haveâŚâ
I had to stop her, âYou do have an awful lot of excuses, though.âÂ
That stopped her right in her tracks.Â
âBut no one will take me seriously if I donât look professional,â she countered, to which, I shared thisâŚ
Hereâs the thingâŚ
And, look, I stumbled and fumbled so many times through Imposter Syndrome, that I sooooo empathize with it. I feel ya, sista when you feel like a fraud or like the quality of your work is ânot good enou...
âI can barely sit still for 5 minutes.â I used to pride myself on always doing. DOING. DOING. DOING. Where my high achievers at, yo!
Sitting still was NOT my jam.Â
Give me music blasting in my ears and 30-minutes at a steady clip of 6.0 miles per hour and I was golden. Moving meditations I could do. Running, pilates, pole dancing, anything that allowed my body to just release and express and let go.
But...
Being alone and quiet in my head used to be a dangerous place for me to rest in because I wasnât at rest.Â
I wasnât at peace with myself. I warred with the light and the darkness.Â
I judged the negative comments and criticism with more judgments and criticism. âI shouldnât be feeling [INSERT WHATEVER NEGATIVE EMOTION OR CRAPPY THOUGHT].â And down I would spiral.Â
When I was 17, struggling through bulimia, major depression, perfectionism, and past trauma. I was a classic type-A, high achiever, never feeling good enough, and painfully forcing be
...Remember, back in 2013, when Jennifer Lawrence was just getting on the scene, eating burritos, breaking all the rules, and the equally talented, but seemingly perfect Anne Hathaway, was scrutinized for her perfection. In fact, at one time if you googled Anne Hathaway and âannoyingâ youâd get 1.5 million search results.Â
Crazy. So what gives? They both are equally talented. They both won Academy Awards.Â
Whatâs the big dif?
Anne Hathaway came across as perfect. Jennifer Lawrence came across as human.
One is your perception of perfection. The other is the audiencesâ perception of perfection.
Itâs no secret, that high achievers tend to be perfectionists.Â
We think that we have to have all our stuff figured out BEFORE we can serve and he
...The landscape of business may have shifted. But the game is still the same. If you have a business that is even remotely online, youâre in the game, babe.
Every product, every service, everything that has ever been created was to solve a problem.
If you as an entrepreneur are seeing this COVID-19, quarantine, stay at home pandemic as a problem, youâre not looking through the wrong end of the telescope.
This isnât about the disease.
The solutions for people stuck in isolation.
The solutions for people starving for peace in a time rampant with fear.
The solutions for people craving for connection, yet completely unable to receive it.
The solutions for a married couple wanting to have a zesty fun marriage - but theyâre quarantined at home with thei...
Everything is a form of energy. Food is. Relationships are. Business is. Money is.
You receive energy. You generate energy - meaning you have it circling about you in some way. And you spend energy.Â
Ever spend your time with someone who, after an hour or so, you felt completely drained, zapped of life, like you just needed to take a nap. You received their energy and spent your own energy...and not in the best way, or in the best life-giving relationship.
The same is true for our relationship with money.
HOW we spend money is just as important as WHAT we spend it on and WHY we are spending it.Â
And it comes down to one simple principle of money...
COST vs. INVESTMENT
When something is a âcost,â it means something is taken away, sacrificed. Itâs an either/or energy. Something comes at the EXPENSE of something else. âCostâ is rooted in scarcity.
And all scarcity comes from fear.Â
When something is an âinvestment,â it means there is a return, an ROI, a gain...
Like attracts like. The Secret. You can manifest money as you desire. Choose to attract what you want in your life - more money, more health, more business, more amazing relationships.Â
All totally true. All 100% possible.Â
But what happens when your actions and behavior, consciously or unconsciously, is out of fear or scarcity?Â
See, thatâs the part of the Law of Attraction thatâs not so sexy.
Like attracts like after all.
If youâre operating right now from a place of scarcity and fear - hunkering down, budgeting, getting âneedyâ for clients - you will absolutely 100% attract prospects and clients who are doing the same.Â
This is how the world spins into a worldwide recession.Â
Everyone gets scarce. People stop spending.Â
Money is a flow of energy and it responds to what youâre putting out into the world.Â
Your feelings are energy.Â
And how you feel when you sell and when you spend enhances or contracts the vibration of money.
The economy i...
If youâre experiencing a struggle right now in your virtual business with the dolla dolla bills flowing in - thereâs no freaking excuse. A restaurant, gym, brick and mortar, or event-based business, yes, theyâre getting hit hard right now.Â
But if youâve got online biz, or even a portion of your biz online and youâre not bringing in money now when MORE people are online and doing business online than ever before....then, itâs both because of what youâre doing and more importantly, itâs because youâre not BEING the dang thing consistently.Â
Questioning yourself. Doubting. Delaying on doing those things. Getting mired in the spiral of âproductive procrastinationâ - doing all the things - except for those in your genius zone.
Your Genius Zone is a magical place.
It goes against every bit of plagiarized programming youâve got.Â
Itâs easy.
Itâs practically effortless.
So when you suddenly see the money flow in from you just being you, doing the thing that you do so freaking wellâŚ
...On the flight over to Australia, I got MY fill of Marvel movies. International flights used to be my jam. Strapped in a seat, Iâd get so much work done. Laser focus, baby! That was before Declan.Â
When we took our first trip overseas to Australia, that was a 16-hour lesson for me in surrendering to what was. Declan was one at the time. I was squished into the middle seat between Spike and a large Samoan man, holding my overly exhausted baby boy, who then proceeded to nurse...for the WHOLE flight. Yeah. That was rough. I learned to surrender the form of how I traveled and the expectation to be able to get ANYTHING done while on a plane with a child...other than taking care of my kid.
So for this flight, I had toÂ
Ex when you face your worst fear, the fear loses its power
Learn the lessons
This is why knowing your values is so critical because you can always pivot into a knee form when you know your purpose.
I didnât realize this when I ...
Never before has there been more of a need to tap into your resilience.â
This world right now requires GRIT.â
The hunger to get back up again, to go back into the proverbial arena, and to show up boldly like never before. â
People are looking for leaders. I don't care whether you have one person following you, 20 people in your group, or 20,000. â
To paraphrase one of my awesome clients, Jessica McCann who wrote her thesis on resilience and grit, shared on my podcast, the life experience and training ground of strengthening your resilience muscle is waaaaaaay different than theorizing about it.â
You know the payoff.â
Maybe it's having that amazing body that you feel so confident in...so you get up and you go for that run or you do that ...
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