“It feels wrong to charge money for my work right now,” my client said to me, trying to convince me of her position. 

If you ever want to see my enneagram-8 coach-mode come out, say something like this in a session with me, and I’m more than happy to go there. (It’s why my clients pay me.)

“Let me ask you this, in a couple of weeks, do you think this situation will get better or worse?”

She paused for a moment, “Worse.”

“SO WHAT WILL BE YOUR EXCUSE THEN ABOUT WHY YOU’RE NOT CHARGING FOR YOUR SERVICES?”

I guarantee you, Walmart, Amazon, CVS, and every other big business out there is still charging for their products and services. In fact, the world’s top billionaires have grown their net worth by billions…why? They kept selling. They’re not judging their customers who are buying toilet paper and food when their customer throws in an “unnecessary” mascara or a face mask or a gossip magazine either. 

IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO DECIDE WHETHER THEY CAN OR CANNOT “AFFORD” YOUR PRODUCTS AND S...

I’ll never forget holding that bouquet of pregnancy tests in my hand. I’d peed four times to make sure it wasn’t a fluke. It couldn’t be, right? This was supposed to be hard for me? No. Nope. I was pregnant. Oh. My. God. I was paralyzed with fear and I’d like to say excitement, but really it was mostly fear. I walked out of our bathroom with the awful medical green tile into our yellow padded voice over studio. It felt appropriate to deliver the news in a padded room. 

Spike was on the phone with one of his investors. As I stand there without saying anything, my handshaking with the sticks, immobilized. “Holy shit,” I thought to myself, “This is happening.” Spike noticed me in the doorframe and mouthed “You’re pregnant?” I could barely manage a nod. 

I’ll never forget the smile that grew across that man’s face. I had to borrow that confidence because I was freaking terrified.

I’d put the title of “Mom” on a pedestal. 

CEO, president, business owner...been there, done that.

 But “M...

I was on a consult call the other week with a self-employed solopreneur who was eager to grow her business and her online presence.

“But,” she said, “I don’t have a team. I don’t have good lighting for videos. I barely even have a good enough phone.” She continued to list the things she didn’t have, ”I don’t have a big following. I barely have a list. I don’t have...I don’t have…”

I had to stop her, “You do have an awful lot of excuses, though.” 

That stopped her right in her tracks. 

“But no one will take me seriously if I don’t look professional,” she countered, to which, I shared this…

“Actually, people will only take you seriously when you are SERIOUSLY committed to what you do.”

Here’s the thing…

YOU ARE EITHER COMMITTED TO YOUR MISSION OR YOU’RE COMMITTED TO YOUR EXCUSES. 

And, look, I stumbled and fumbled so many times through Imposter Syndrome, that I sooooo empathize with it. I feel ya, sista when you feel like a fraud or like the quality of your work is “not good enou...

The landscape of business may have shifted. But the game is still the same. If you have a business that is even remotely online, you’re in the game, babe.

What’s that game you ask? Solving problems.

BUSINESS SOLVES PROBLEMS.

Every product, every service, everything that has ever been created was to solve a problem.

If you as an entrepreneur are seeing this COVID-19, quarantine, stay at home pandemic as a problem, you’re not looking through the wrong end of the telescope.

This isn’t about the disease.

THIS IS ABOUT THE SOLUTIONS FOR THE PEOPLE OF THIS PLANET TO STILL REMAIN CONNECTED TO BEAUTY, GROWTH, LIFE, BUSINESS, AND TO CREATE A NEW NORMAL THROUGH THIS TIME.

The solutions for people stuck in isolation.

The solutions for people starving for peace in a time rampant with fear.

The solutions for people craving for connection, yet completely unable to receive it.

The solutions for a married couple wanting to have a zesty fun marriage - but they’re quarantined at home with thei...

Everything is a form of energy. Food is. Relationships are. Business is. Money is.

You receive energy.  You generate energy - meaning you have it circling about you in some way. And you spend energy. 

IT’S ALL ENERGY. 

Ever spend your time with someone who, after an hour or so, you felt completely drained, zapped of life, like you just needed to take a nap. You received their energy and spent your own energy...and not in the best way, or in the best life-giving relationship.

The same is true for our relationship with money.

HOW we spend money is just as important as WHAT we spend it on and WHY we are spending it. 

And it comes down to one simple principle of money...

COST vs. INVESTMENT

When something is a “cost,” it means something is taken away, sacrificed. It’s an either/or energy. Something comes at the EXPENSE of something else. “Cost” is rooted in scarcity.

And all scarcity comes from fear. 

When something is an “investment,” it means there is a return, an ROI, a gain...

Like attracts like. The Secret. You can manifest money as you desire. Choose to attract what you want in your life - more money, more health, more business, more amazing relationships. 

All totally true. All 100% possible. 

But what happens when your actions and behavior, consciously or unconsciously, is out of fear or scarcity? 

See, that’s the part of the Law of Attraction that’s not so sexy.

Like attracts like after all.

SCARCITY BREEDS MORE SCARCITY.

If you’re operating right now from a place of scarcity and fear - hunkering down, budgeting, getting “needy” for clients - you will absolutely 100% attract prospects and clients who are doing the same. 

This is how the world spins into a worldwide recession. 

Everyone gets scarce. People stop spending. 

Money is a flow of energy and it responds to what you’re putting out into the world. 

Your feelings are energy. 

And how you feel when you sell and when you spend enhances or contracts the vibration of money.

The economy i...

If you’re experiencing a struggle right now in your virtual business with the dolla dolla bills flowing in - there’s no freaking excuse. A restaurant, gym, brick and mortar, or event-based business, yes, they’re getting hit hard right now. 

But if you’ve got online biz, or even a portion of your biz online and you’re not bringing in money now when MORE people are online and doing business online than ever before....then, it’s both because of what you’re doing and more importantly, it’s because you’re not BEING the dang thing consistently. 

Questioning yourself. Doubting. Delaying on doing those things. Getting mired in the spiral of “productive procrastination” - doing all the things - except for those in your genius zone.

Your Genius Zone is a magical place.

It goes against every bit of plagiarized programming you’ve got. 

It’s easy.

It’s practically effortless.

So when you suddenly see the money flow in from you just being you, doing the thing that you do so freaking well…

On the flight over to Australia, I got MY fill of Marvel movies. International flights used to be my jam. Strapped in a seat, I’d get so much work done. Laser focus, baby! That was before Declan. 

When we took our first trip overseas to Australia, that was a 16-hour lesson for me in surrendering to what was. Declan was one at the time. I was squished into the middle seat between Spike and a large Samoan man, holding my overly exhausted baby boy, who then proceeded to nurse...for the WHOLE flight. Yeah. That was rough. I learned to surrender the form of how I traveled and the expectation to be able to get ANYTHING done while on a plane with a child...other than taking care of my kid.

So for this flight, I had to 

Ex when you face your worst fear, the fear loses its power

Learn the lessons

SURRENDER THE FORM OF HOW YOU DO BUSINESS

This is why knowing your values is so critical because you can always pivot into a knee form when you know your purpose.

I didn’t realize this when I ...