The Power of Your Queen Team Business Rhapsody

Uncategorized Apr 16, 2020

One of my favorite bands of all time is Queen. When we temporarily relocated to Australia, Spike bought me a Freddy Mercury Funko doll (you know those tiny-body, giant-headed, fits in the palm of your hand toys) for my “office” area. 

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Maybe it was the sunny-still vibe of another day in Queensland, or the butterflies flying past my windows, or my run past the building named “Rhapsody” in Surfer’s Paradise that morning, but in a moment of deep introspection, I spoke to my Freddy Funko. 

Look, I owned my crazy a long time ago, so this is not too out of the ordinary. I was looking for a connection. I believe everything happens FOR a reason, for our greater learning, growth, and evolution. So all of these things, all of these signs, I just could not ignore.

“What is it about Freddy Mercury? About Queen? About Rhapsody?” I mused. 

An official word-nerd, I looked up the definition.

 

Rhapsody /ˈrapsədi/

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The Lion Inside

Uncategorized Apr 15, 2020

One of my favorite things about being a mom - okay, #letsbehonest, there are LOTS of favorite things - but one of them is children’s books. Being a obsessed with the mind and knowing what I know about subconscious programming, I keep a watchful eye on what lessons, learnings, books, and knowledge Declan is consuming right now. 

After we decided to hunker down in Australia for the next few months, I knew that we needed more books than What do You Do with an Idea and the rainbow book. Both great books...but this mama needed some variety. 

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We were in Big W, and I saw this one book - The Lion Inside. It’s about how a little mouse who is ignored and feels small and forgotten, admires this Lion...and his ROAR. The mouse decides that if he had a ROAR like a lion, he could have a voice. So even though he was scared, even though he acknowledges that this might mean he becomes Lion’s dinner, he musters up the courage and he seeks out the Lion to...

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How to Be the Quarantine Queen-B of Productivity

Uncategorized Apr 11, 2020

“I don’t know how you do it with a kid.”

Eight months ago one of my clients, a dedicated corporate career woman who thrived off of routine, structure, and spreadsheets, asked me this. She had spent the past decade in the same routine within the ”safety” of a job. She’d known me through two businesses - first as a Pilates client, then as a leadership coaching client. 

Fast forward to now, everyone is working from home, if they’re able to, and every kid is staying home and every parent has also become the teacher. No babysitters. No school. No playdates.  No nannies (unless you have the fancy luxury of a live-in nanny...and if so, rock on, Queen!!)

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So how do you literally DO IT ALL? 

I‘ve built my business with my baby by my side, sometimes even on my chest, working from home with my husband. With three years of training, this shizzle is simple and effortless for me.

NO.1 - PUT THE MASK ON YOURSELF FIRST

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Subtlety ain’t my specialty.

Uncategorized Apr 10, 2020

“People tell me I’m too direct.” 

So often people misconstrue being direct for not caring.

It is because I am direct with you and a straight shooter that I care about you. 

LET YOUR YES MEAN YES, AND YOUR “NO” MEAN “NO.” 

One of the commitments I work to live by is…

IF IT’S NOT A ‘HELL YES’” - MEANING A JUMP UP IN THE AIR, OMG-I-AM-SO-EXCITED, DANCE-MY-ASS-OFF-EEEEEEEEEEEEK-YIPEE - THAN IT’S A “NO.”

This was a hard-fought lesson when I was a people-pleasing, please-everyone-love-me, addict’s daughter with daddy issues, but as I started to listen more to my soul, my heart, and trust my gut, and believe in myself more, I saw that me sacrificing my soul to please others served NO ONE. 

So I stopped. And I started saying “Yes” only to what I thought was 100% aligned. 

And, sure, sometimes, telling a friend a “no” or a client a...

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“I tears. I cry.”

Uncategorized Apr 09, 2020
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“I tears. I cry,” he whimpered to me with his puffy lower lip sticking out as he wiped away the two tear strains rolling down his cheek.

“Everybody cries, baby. Mama cries. Daddy cries. Ma cries. Pa cries. It’s okay to cry,” I say to Declan, “It just shows that you care so deeply.”

At that moment Declan mostly cared about not having Saline solution blown up his nose and having an ow-wow-wow. But a poignant lesson, nonetheless, no matter how small or big the problem may seem.

Sometimes as positive-forward-thinking leaders we feel the pressure to always be “on,” meaning we always have to be positive and forward-thinking. 

Nonsense. You’re not an automoton. You’re human.

Feelings hit. 

They happen. 

It’s natural and normal to feel feelings - all of them. 

And, yes, positive thinkers, that includes feeling sad, angry, peeved, frustrated, vengeful, rage, shame, guilt, fear, and the...

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The Key to Defeating Fear

Uncategorized Apr 08, 2020

It’s easy to slip into doubt and fear. Doubt and fear are normal, human emotions. Everyone, from plebeians to queen, has experienced it. A Queen, however, knows just how much weight Fear can toss and for how long, before she kicks that b*tch right back to where she belongs...in the minds of the mediocre.

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Fear will sit on your throne and rule your life if you let her, as she warps and rots your dream from the inside out, like an insipid virus. 

Her spies creep in through the catacombs of doubt, where the buried voices of those long gone echo.

Her armies surround your gates, waiting, daring you to expand, to reach higher, to climb rather, to grow bigger, to go beyond where you are now. 

For at that moment you do, she is right there to push back. 

TIME IS HER WEAKNESS. 

For it is through time that she gains her strength. 

EVERY PASSING DAY YOU DELAY, IS LIKE OXYGEN TO FEAR’S FIRE. 

Every moment you allow another ghost of the...

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Conduct yourself with candor, Queen. 👑

Uncategorized Apr 07, 2020
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“You gotta want kids if you want to be with me.”

He was 19 years older than me. In his first marriage, they had agreed not to have children. I was falling in love with him. I also knew I wanted kids. And I knew he would make a fantastic father. I wasn’t about to compromise on what I wanted. But, I was willing to walk away if I couldn’t have it all. So, I figured I’d come right out with it. Why beat around the bush, right?

Yet, so often in our communication, we speak implicitly. 

We hint. 

We imply. 

We drop clues. 

But, come right out and say what you want and that you want it…

To be totally and brutally honest, well that’s just brutal, right?

Or is it or is it brutal to pretend you want something you don’t want, dance around the topic for years and then get your heart smashed because it didn’t happen. To me, the latter seems far more brutal with time, effort, and energy lost. 

It’s...

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Think your customers can’t pay when in crisis?

Uncategorized Apr 06, 2020

“It feels wrong to charge money for my work right now,” my client said to me, trying to convince me of her position. 

If you ever want to see my enneagram-8 coach-mode come out, say something like this in a session with me, and I’m more than happy to go there. (It’s why my clients pay me.)

“Let me ask you this, in a couple of weeks, do you think this situation will get better or worse?”

She paused for a moment, “Worse.”

“SO WHAT WILL BE YOUR EXCUSE THEN ABOUT WHY YOU’RE NOT CHARGING FOR YOUR SERVICES?”

I guarantee you, Walmart, Amazon, CVS, and every other big business out there is still charging for their products and services. In fact, the world’s top billionaires have grown their net worth by billions…why? They kept selling. They’re not judging their customers who are buying toilet paper and food when their customer throws in an “unnecessary” mascara or a face mask or a gossip...

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Be a Good Parent

Uncategorized Apr 05, 2020

I’ll never forget holding that bouquet of pregnancy tests in my hand. I’d peed four times to make sure it wasn’t a fluke. It couldn’t be, right? This was supposed to be hard for me? No. Nope. I was pregnant. Oh. My. God. I was paralyzed with fear and I’d like to say excitement, but really it was mostly fear. I walked out of our bathroom with the awful medical green tile into our yellow padded voice over studio. It felt appropriate to deliver the news in a padded room. 

Spike was on the phone with one of his investors. As I stand there without saying anything, my handshaking with the sticks, immobilized. “Holy shit,” I thought to myself, “This is happening.” Spike noticed me in the doorframe and mouthed “You’re pregnant?” I could barely manage a nod. 

I’ll never forget the smile that grew across that man’s face. I had to borrow that confidence because I was freaking terrified.

I’d put...

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THIS doesn’t look like Marie Forleo at all.

Uncategorized Apr 04, 2020

I was on a consult call the other week with a self-employed solopreneur who was eager to grow her business and her online presence.

“But,” she said, “I don’t have a team. I don’t have good lighting for videos. I barely even have a good enough phone.” She continued to list the things she didn’t have, ”I don’t have a big following. I barely have a list. I don’t have...I don’t have…”

I had to stop her, “You do have an awful lot of excuses, though.” 

That stopped her right in her tracks. 

“But no one will take me seriously if I don’t look professional,” she countered, to which, I shared this…

“Actually, people will only take you seriously when you are SERIOUSLY committed to what you do.”

Here’s the thing…

YOU ARE EITHER COMMITTED TO YOUR MISSION OR YOU’RE COMMITTED TO YOUR EXCUSES. 

And, look, I stumbled and fumbled so many...

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