There’s a huge difference between being busy and actually getting shit done. But at the end of the month, when you look at your bank account, or your BMI, or your calendar full of date nights (or lack thereof)...

How much has your BUSY-ness pushed you up that ladder toward where you want to be?

In 10 years of working with people, whether it was teaching Pilates or Coaching, let me tell you, being “too busy” is not an original excuse. It didn’t matter whether my client was a housewife with two grown children in college, or a partner at one of the top law firms in the country, every single woman thought she was busy. Too busy to work out. Too busy to take on another project. Too busy to go on a date. Too busy to meditate. Being “too busy” is a popular perception to have.

No one wants to think of themselves as lazy. (Even if their results say that they are.)

So, how do you ensure that your BUSY-Ness and your results are in alignment?

NO. 1 - Connect with your Goal

A lot of times we like to use ...

I’ve been meditating a lot on putting myself at Cause. You see, you always have a choice. Even when you think you don’t have a choice, you have a choice. Just because you don’t like the alternative choices available, doesn’t mean you don’t have a choice.

You can choose to take a stand. And you can choose to fall.

This week I chose to stand up for how I will allow myself and my family to be treated. Over the past three years I’ve cut several people completely out of my life - a partner, several boyfriends, a bridesmaid. They crossed my boundaries.

It sounds selfish, and it was. I totally cop to it. But that’s what boundaries are.

Boundaries are selfish. But, being selfish has got a bad rap.

As a coach of Neurolinguistic Programming, let’s take a look linguistically at what being “selfish” really is. While the term “ish” has had some urban alterations like meaning an issue of a magazine and as a euphemism for “shit” back in the ’90s, as a suffix it’s totally different. The suffix “-ish” mea...

A while back, my inbox was a black hole of "important" info and urgency.

I was an executive in a national online startup and we were hustling to get the business off the ground. 4 AM urgent emails filled my inbox, dripping with panic about the website not being perfect or the latest email having copy editing errors. 11 PM emails about new strategies to implement, new marketing tactics to try, where our sales conversions were, and our sales projections. I felt like a madwoman subscribing to every marketing and business building webinar imaginable. I would wake up shaking in the middle of the night wondering if I'd missed something if I'd set the latest sales to funnel up correctly, if I had a typo in tomorrow's social media posts.

Your inbox is a precious space of your energy. It is a direct reflection of what's going on inside you.

And what was going on inside of me was nothing good. I was filled with negative emotions - fear, doubt, frustration. My hair started falling out from stress ...

Motivation dies quickly. You go to a workshop, take a seminar, watch a webinar. And for that day you’re feeling pretty pumped! You’ve got all these ideas flowing, and everything seems like it’s jiving. Maybe you even go home and make a list of all the stuff you’re going to get done, and all your goals for the entire year, and all your dreams. You start scrolling through Pinterest, crafting the perfect vision board of everything you want, desire, and dream of in your life.

Then tomorrow comes.

And that whole idea you had to wake up at 5AM and workout seems a bit…well, hard. Maybe you had your 4-month old woke you up a few times throughout the night. Maybe you were so pumped that you didn’t fall asleep till 12PM because you were too busy crafting that Pinterest dream board. Maybe it’s just freaking early…and cold…and your tired...and those covers just feel so damn good. And all that motivation dies right under the covers, and you go back to doing the same ol’ thing.

Willpower is highly over...

Don’t tell my husband, but I’m addicted…to Battlestar Galactica. It would make him far too happy that I’ve converted to the “dark side” and fallen into a special love with this sci-fi series. I could say it’s because of it’s heavy NLP influence - lessons like perception is projection, cause > effect, and the power of the unconscious mind  - permeates the show.

But, really, it’s just damn good entertainment. 

In one episode, Colonel Tigh, the local drunk, prevents one of Admiral Adamas’s former fighter pilots from killing him. You see, this pilot had been left for dead by Adama on covert mission years ago against the Cylons, and mysteriously returned years later. Turns out he was captured by the Cylons, and, after they wiped out all of humanity (except for the fleet of the Battlestar Galactica), they let this viper pilot go, knowing that he had a vendetta against the Admiral for leaving him behind…for dead. So he tried to kill him. 

Thankfully, Colonel Tigh steps out of his drunken stupor ...

To create anything takes a bold leap of faith into the unknown, trusting that wherever you land will be right where you need to be, to grow, learn, and thrive.

Over the past two years, Crown Yourself has been brimming, brewing, and percolating in the French press of workshops, personal coaching, group coaching programs, and live events. We’ve been testing, exploring, figuring it and ourselves out.

It’s not been an easy road. No creative journey ever is.

But that’s all life is. One long journey in creativity. Only you have the power to make your life freaking rule, with the passion, power, and freedom you desire. Only you have the ability to change your life. You must make the changes. You must take action. And while you’re on this amazing journey, sure, blockades will pop up along the way. Fear sometimes seems insurmountable. Some problems seemed un-figureoutable. Sometimes we get lost in translation between dream and reality. Software gets glitches. Brain farts happen. Large learning c...