ENCORE: Reigning in Your Divine Purpose: Empathy vs. Excuses
Is your empathy guiding you—or giving fear a convincing excuse? In this encore episode, Kimberly Spencer shares a vulnerable story about mom guilt, business travel, and showing up when growth feels uncomfortable. Discover how to distinguish intuition from avoidance, reconnect with your purpose, and honor your commitments while making space for your feelings. Your next aligned decision starts here.
In this episode of Crown Yourself, you’ll learn how to:
- Recognize when empathy becomes an excuse for avoiding uncomfortable conversations, opportunities, or growth.
- Distinguish an intuitive “no” from fear by examining your intentions, values, and patterns of showing up.
- Navigate mom guilt while pursuing your purpose, making room for both your family relationships and your professional commitments.
- Honor your emotions without letting them make every decision, giving yourself space to feel before choosing your next step.
- Build self-trust through realistic commitments that reflect what matters most to you.
- Channel big feelings into purposeful action by asking, “How can I use this experience to serve?”
Your empathy is a gift, Queen. Sovereign leadership means choosing consciously how you act on it.
Enjoy, sovereigns!
Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, or your favorite podcast listening platform. You can also watch the episode on YouTube.
Quotes:
“You keep your commitments in accordance with your values.” ~ Kimberly Spencer
“Once you start serving, then you're no longer making it about you.” ~ Kimberly Spencer
“So always examine every possibility of any excuse, especially the ones that can be colored in really amazing colors like empathy.” ~ Kimberly Spencer
Moments of Note:
Feeling Empathy vs. Using it as an Excuse [00:00:00]
Exploring the difference between genuine empathy and using it as a justification for avoiding challenges.
Leaving for a Conference and Feeling Guilt [00:02:51]
Discussing the emotional experience of leaving loved ones behind for a conference and dealing with guilt.
Facing Introversion and Stepping Out of Comfort Zone [00:08:42]
Sharing personal experiences of being introverted and the courage it takes to engage with others at a conference.
Recognizing Intuition [00:12:15]
Kimberly discusses the process of recognizing whether her intuition is guiding her to make a decision or if she is using empathy as an excuse.
Choosing to Serve [00:13:25]
Kimberly talks about how she chose to prioritize serving by producing content and implementing strategies instead of going out and building relationships.
Keeping Commitments [00:21:53]
The importance of keeping commitments and staying in integrity is discussed, emphasizing the correlation between success and the commitments one makes to oneself and others.
The commitment to finishing a run [00:24:01]
Kimberly talks about the commitment she made to herself to finish a 60-minute run.
Keeping commitments and showing up [00:24:55]
Kimberly discusses the importance of keeping commitments, even when not feeling like it, and shares personal experiences.
Using empathy as an excuse [00:28:48]
Kimberly talks about the danger of using empathy as an excuse for not showing up and doing what needs to be done.
Bullet Points
- Empathy versus using it as an excuse
- Recognizing feelings as a somatic experience
- Belief systems around empathy and excuses
- Struggle of being an introvert and connecting with others
- Checking in with oneself to gain clarity
- Muscle testing decisions for alignment and fulfillment
- Recharging and managing emotions
- Keeping commitments and staying true to values
- Treating the calendar as sacred
- Using empathy as a tool for action and serving others
Transcript:
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