The French Fries 🍟 Fear
I took a french fry from Declan’s plate. He looked at me with a combination of determination and fear, “No mama. That’s my fry.”
I smiled. He’s been going through this “my” phase. He thinks me sharing with him is him sharing with me.
Is three the age that the ego comes into play?
Anyway...
I looked at him and smiled, waving the fry in the air, “We can always get more,” I said as I bit into the crispy warm exterior and felt the soothing steam of potato.
Maybe that french fry was magical?
Maybe it was in my delivery?
But something clicked.
Decky smiled, “We can always get more,” he said, practically throwing the line away, claiming it as his own.
Now anytime he shares with me, or I share with him, he says…
“We can always get more.”
It got me thinking -
Is a scarcity mindset born or bred?
Or both.
Scientists studied three generations of mice. In the first generation, the mouse would go through a maze, and at one point inside the maze, the mouse would receive an electrical shock. And every time that mouse would go through that maze, they would receive the shock in the exact same place in the maze, till, of course, the mouse got smart and started stopping itself BEFORE that spot, so it wouldn’t receive the shock.
Then, as the mice were bred, the next-generation mouse would go through the maze.
While this generation didn’t physically receive the shock.
What if we’re all mice trapped in generational trauma?
I was working with one of my private clients a few years ago through Time Line Therapy, a process combining time techniques with hypnosis to topple the root causes of negative emotion.
We were working through the negative emotion of guilt and he said the first event when he experienced, the root cause, was when he was 6-months in utero.
“I don’t know what happened then.”
“Don’t worry,” I reassured him, “It’s not your conscious concept of time we’re looking for, it’s your unconscious. If your unconscious mind said 6-months, then let’s go with that and see what we discover.”
We began the process and halfway through gathering all the glorious learnings, he got this weird look on his face, “This is crazy, but I’m getting this image of a motorcycle.”
We wrapped up the sessions and I gave him homework, “Just ask your parents about a motorcycle when your mom was 6-months pregnant with you.”
In our next session, he shared with me, “Kim, the craziest thing happened!”
That’s a statement that generally precedes massive transformation, so I leaned in, “What?” I asked.
“Well, remember how you said to ask my parents about the motorcycle? I did. And my mom had this massive guilty look on her face - she was in shock. She asked me, how did I know? She’d never spoken a word about it to anyone. Apparently, she and my dad were in a big motorcycle accident when she was 6-months pregnant with me. She’d thought she lost me! When she found out I was going to be okay, they sold the motorcycle and vowed never to speak of it again.”
I listened, amazed and in awe of the powers of our subconscious minds and this beautiful gift of how connected we are.
Because he did his work and went through the healing for himself, he was able to share forgiveness with his mom - something that she’d felt guilty about for decades, was finally healed.
This is the power of doing the deep transformative work.
THIS IS THE POWER OF REVOLUTIONIZING YOUR MINDSET FROM FEAR, GUILT, AND SHAME, TO ONE OF ABUNDANCE, ACCEPTANCE, AND PEACE.
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(See what I did there. You just saw me offer MORE to this message....again. 😉 )
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