Seven Blank Pages & the Power of Rewriting Your Life with Whitney Joy
Imagine losing your job, your marriage, and your home — all at once. Most would see devastation, but author Whitney Joy saw an invitation. In this soul-stirring episode of the Crown Yourself Podcast, Kimberly Spencer dives deep with Whitney into her transformative journey captured in her debut memoir, Seven Blank Pages.
Whitney shares how she turned a quarter-life identity crisis into a spiritual pilgrimage of self-discovery — filling the blank pages of her passport and her soul. From wearing Titanic’s legendary “Heart of the Ocean” gemstone to dancing through heartbreak, Whitney vulnerably reveals how she learned to trust her intuition, reframe failure as freedom, and surrender control to the flow of life.
Together, Kimberly and Whitney unpack the alchemy of transformation — anger as a portal to power, dating apps as divine messengers, and the sovereign practice of seeking internal validation instead of external approval.
If you’ve ever felt like life handed you a plot twist you didn’t see coming, this episode is your permission slip to stop clinging to the past and courageously write your next chapter — one blank page at a time.
Enjoy, sovereigns!
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Whitney Joy on Seven Blank Pages: Surrender, Self-Discovery, and Sovereign Leadership
⏱️ [00:00] Welcome to the Crown Yourself Podcast
Kimberly Spencer:
Welcome to the Crown Yourself podcast, where together we build your empire and transform your subconscious stories about what's possible for your business, body, and life.
I’m your host, Kimberly Spencer — founder of Crown Yourself, master mindset coach, bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and game changer. Each week, you’ll get conscious leadership strategies to help you reign with courage, clarity, and confidence so that you can make the income and impact you deserve.
✨ Meet Whitney Joy: Author of Seven Blank Pages
⏱️ [01:24] The Journey Begins
Kimberly Spencer:
I am so honored and excited to have first-time author Whitney Joy joining us with her masterpiece, Seven Blank Pages. I had the opportunity to get an early copy and it gave me Elizabeth Gilbert and Glennon Doyle vibes — the vulnerability, the storytelling — and yet, Whitney, you were never trained in writing.
Whitney Joy:
No, not at all. I just had to surrender, take action, and learn as I went. One of my favorite authors is Paulo Coelho, and I wanted to write my story as it was lived — to let people learn through the story itself.
🔥 Losing Everything to Find Yourself
⏱️ [03:10] The Quarter-Life Identity Crisis
Whitney Joy:
When I was 30, I lost my husband, house, and job — the very things that defined me. At first, I tried to fix it all, to cling to security. Nothing worked. Finally, I stepped back and reframed it:
“I am not a victim. This is an opportunity to get to know Whitney like never before.”
So I unplugged from everyone I knew, got quiet enough to hear my own intuition, and took off traveling.
💎 Gemstones, Luxury, and the Sparkle of Life
⏱️ [05:45] Why Gemstones Became Her Symbol
Whitney Joy:
I had a high-end luxury career I loved — but it was also my courage and creativity expressed. Losing it forced me to separate my identity from my job.
Gemstones have been part of my life since I was 16. I’ve always been fascinated by their energy — why they’re put in crowns, why wars were fought over them. They became a motif throughout Seven Blank Pages, reminding me of the light and frequency within all of us.
🌊 Redefining Flow
⏱️ [08:29] France, Switzerland, and Italy
Kimberly Spencer:
I loved how your story showed the difference between flow in France and Switzerland — where everything aligned — versus Italy, where you hit roadblocks.
Whitney Joy:
Exactly. Flow isn’t always ease. Sometimes it’s an opportunity to break patterns and grow. Italy was hard — I was scared, uncomfortable — but it was still flow. It taught me to pivot, redirect, and find balance again.
🔥 Anger as Power
⏱️ [11:08] The Diplomatic Suite Breakthrough
Whitney Joy:
Allowing myself to be angry opened me up to my own power. I’d suppressed emotions for years. In the diplomatic suite, I broke. I cried, vented, and let it out — and afterward, I felt clear and calm.
“It’s like a geode — you have to break it open to see the crystal inside.”
That release gave me access to my next-level self.
✍️ Writing Through Vulnerability
⏱️ [13:07] Facing Imposter Syndrome
Whitney Joy:
Writing the book brought up imposter syndrome: Who am I to do this? But every day, I had a choice: keep writing, or quit. And each day, the choice to keep going got stronger.
💡 Lessons on Desire, Validation, and Self-Trust
⏱️ [17:12] Giving Yourself Permission
Whitney Joy:
I had to give myself permission to be curious — to explore what turned me on, what lit me up, what made me feel alive.
I learned that seeking validation outside of myself was giving away my power. Turning inward taught me self-acceptance and grace.
💕 Manifesting Love with Intention
⏱️ [19:33] Using Technology as a Tool
Whitney Joy:
Even dating became intentional. Tinder, Bumble, Hinge — each was a tool the universe used to bring the right people into my life. When I finally became the person I wanted to date, I met my husband — the very first person I matched with on Hinge in San Francisco.
🕊️ Releasing Control
⏱️ [25:21] From Perfectionism to Trust
Whitney Joy:
One of my biggest breakthroughs was realizing I didn’t have to control it all or do it alone. Asking for help became a power move, not a weakness.
🎶 Meditation and Play
⏱️ [27:52] Daily Practices for Joy
Whitney Joy:
Meditation doesn’t have to be solemn — it’s about living connected. And play? That’s where the magic is. Dance, music, adventure — that’s how I stay in flow.
🗻 Adventure & Extreme Sports
⏱️ [31:32] Lessons from the Mountains
Whitney Joy:
Climbing mountains and skydiving taught me presence, surrender, and courage. You can’t control what happens after you jump out of a plane — but you can choose to feel everything.
💔 The Courage to Leave
⏱️ [35:32] When Good Isn’t Enough
Whitney Joy:
Leaving my marriage wasn’t easy — there was no villain, no big blowup — but indifference crept in, and I couldn’t ignore it. Sometimes we must surrender the good to step into the great.
🔥 Going Back Into the Fire
⏱️ [38:07] Becoming a Bigger Vessel
Whitney Joy:
Growth isn’t about staying polished — it’s about going back into the fire, again and again, and becoming more expansive each time.
👑 Seasons, Motherhood & Timing
⏱️ [40:54] Letting the Boss Rest
Whitney Joy:
I chose to be fully present with my children for a season — and now it’s time for the “boss” in me to rise again. Seven Blank Pages was finished at exactly the right time.
🎉 Redefining the Book Tour
⏱️ [44:52] Following the Flow
Whitney Joy:
Instead of forcing a traditional book tour, I’m following the energy — designing experiences that create connection and allow the book to travel, just like I did.
🌍 Manifestation in Action
⏱️ [47:21] The Airport Vision
Whitney Joy:
I dream of seeing my book in airports one day. Maybe I’ll start by giving them away at airports myself and see where they travel.
🌀 The Power of Story & Circle
⏱️ [50:00] Collective Healing
Kimberly Spencer:
Your book isn’t prescriptive — it’s an invitation. A charcuterie board of stories, each one sparking reflection, not telling readers what they “should” do.
⚡ Rapid Fire Q&A
- Favorite female character: Erin Brockovich – bold, smart, courageous.
- Person to embody for a day: Cleopatra — scholar, leader, in the middle of everything.
- Relationship with money: Flow. I’ve been broke, I’ve made more than expected. Gratitude is my constant.
- Daily money ritual: Gratitude, even at the grocery store, for being able to buy what nourishes my family.
- Definition of Queendom: Freedom — being sovereign of my own story, anywhere, anytime.
- One practice to transform your life: One-minute meditation — connect up to the stars, down to the earth, and realize you are right in the middle.
👑 Crowning Moment
Whitney Joy:
Right now? A glass of wine and a good night’s sleep. That’s my throne.