Mindset Isn’t Your Problem: The Hidden Identity Trap Blocking Your Success (and How to Break It)

You’ve journaled, visualized, affirmed, healed, and hyper-self-analyzed… yet your manifestation still hasn’t shifted. Queen, if you’ve ever wondered, “Why am I doing all the inner work but my reality won’t budge?” — this episode is your breakthrough.

Inside this deeply personal and powerfully practical transmission, Kimberly pulls back the curtain on the missing link most high-performers overlook: identity-level embodiment. Not mindset tweaks. Not prettier affirmations. Not more healing loops. But the actual recoding of the subconscious rules shaping your behavior, your bank account, your relationships, and your environment.

Through raw storytelling, real-life examples, and the physiology-driven strategies she used to rebuild her income, business, and self-worth, Kimberly reveals:

✨ Why affirmations fail when your identity says “Nope.”
✨ How your posture, breath, and micro-actions rewire your nervous system for success.
✨ The secret reason you repeat the same patterns — even after breakthroughs.
✨ How to spot your unconscious beliefs by reading your environment like a manifestation mirror.
✨ The embodiment practices (Pilates, yoga, qigong) that shift you faster than journaling ever will.

This isn’t surface-level mindset work. This is sovereign-level self-mastery — the alchemical process of becoming the version of you who already holds the crown.

If you’re ready to rise beyond awareness into embodied transformation… welcome to the next level of your reign.

Mindset Isn’t Your Problem — The Hidden Identity Trap Blocking Your Success (and How to Break It)
Transcript from Crown Yourself Podcast with Kimberly Spencer 

🎙 About This Episode (00:00)

Welcome to the Mindset vs Embodiment deep dive you didn’t know you needed. This episode explores why your mindset tools—journaling, affirmations, healing work—only get you so far… and why embodiment and identity recoding are the true levers of transformation.

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👑 About Crown Yourself® (Promo Section)

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Welcome to the Crown Yourself Podcast, where together we build your empire and transform your subconscious stories about what’s possible for your business, body, and life… Your sovereignty starts here and your reign is now.

 The Real Reason Your Manifestation Isn’t Changing (03:00)

If you've journaled, you've visualized, you've done the affirmations, you've done the inner work. You're constantly healing. You're on a self-awareness. You're so full of self-awareness. You're aware of everybody else's behavior and yours, and you're constantly taking your own responsibility for everybody else's behavior. And nothing in your manifestation is changing.

It's because you're missing this one subconscious programming step that actually creates change. And trust me, I learned this one the hard way.

Mindset vs Embodiment — The Identity Gap No One Talks About (04:30)

So I remember sitting back in 2018 and I had just hit my first 13K month and I was like, oh my God, I have arrived. I am the coach now.

And as soon as I did, my nervous system went, what the hell just happened? Because my subconscious mind had a whole different identity than who I was being as that person.

What happened was old identity patterns resurfaced, emotional reactions started to come up. This was the moment I realized the jarring divide between mindset and embodiment of that next level version of you.

Limiting Beliefs Aren’t Just Thoughts — They’re Subconscious Rules (06:00)

In NLP, a limiting belief isn't just a thought. We think that, oh, it's mindset. We need to change our mindset, right?

But it's actually the way your mind is set.

Your mindset is a subconscious rule created to keep you safe.

This rule keeps reinforcing and recoding itself until it becomes identity-level truth.

The “Dirty Dishes” Metaphor for Subconscious Build-Up (07:40)

It's kind of like when you have the dishes in a sink and the first-day dishes are fine. But you go multiple days and what was sub-counter level starts spilling out onto the counter and into your environment.

You don't think your beliefs — you live them.

Why Mindset Tools Don’t Actually Recode You (09:20)

Journaling, visualization, and affirmations create awareness…
But none of these recode neural patterns.

It’s like putting gold glitter into a cracked foundation. It’s pretty, but it’s unstable.

If the identity doesn’t shift, the mind will override the behavior.

Environment as a Mirror of Your Identity (11:30)

The greatest way to identify the beliefs holding you back is to look at your environment:

• What triggers you?
  
  
• What bothers you?
  
  
• What patterns repeat?
  
  

Your environment is produced by your behavior, which comes from capabilities, thoughts, feelings, beliefs — and ultimately, your identity.

Money Bulimia & Identity Shifts — Kimberly’s Story (14:00)

Between ages 11 and 22, I was bulimic. Eventually I healed through somatic work.

But the deeper identity belief didn’t disappear — it shape-shifted.

From body → relationships → business → money.

When I entered entrepreneurship, my identity flipped again, creating what I call financial bulimia — money in, money out. I had $40K in personal debt, and my husband and I had $100K in shared debt.

Identity patterns don’t vanish. They evolve.

Identity Creates Your Environment (18:30)

When I shifted my identity, my environment finally shifted with me — not before.

This is why:

• If your identity says “I’m inconsistent,”
  
  
• Your belief becomes “I won’t stick to this,”
  
  
• Your behavior becomes 3 days of effort → then stop.
  
  

Identity drives everything.

Why Affirmations Don’t Work (22:00)

I think most affirmations are bullshit.

Because the only reason you have to say affirmations is because you’re telling your subconscious you're NOT already the thing.

Wealthy people aren’t going around declaring, “I’m wealthy.”
They simply are.

Affirmations work when they match identity — not when they compensate for it.

Mindset vs Embodiment — Why Embodiment Always Wins (24:00)

Embodiment is challenging because it feels uncomfortable and unnatural at first — like trying on a dress one size too small.

But the fastest way to shift identity is through physiology.

Physiology First — The Foundation of Embodiment (25:30)

I didn’t start in personal development with the mind.
I started with the body.

Pilates, yoga, qigong — these regulate your nervous system and make the body feel safe.

Money, fitness results, relationships — they all exist in the physical realm. If your body doesn’t feel safe, your manifestation won’t land.

Your Nervous System Can’t Tell Fear from Excitement (27:00)

Your brain literally can’t tell the difference.

This is why you must learn to regulate both.

When the body feels safe, your business expands.

Posture, Breath, and Micro-Actions Recode Identity (29:30)

You can trick your brain into confidence through posture:

• Sit up straight
  
  
• Chin up
  
  
• Shoulders back
  
  

This is how physiology shapes identity.

If you slouch, your nervous system interprets survival mode.
If you open your posture, your body interprets safety.

Using Money Patterns to Reveal Beliefs (32:00)

Sometimes you don’t know your beliefs — but your bank account does.

Patterns reveal identity:

• Always going negative
  
  
• Barely paying the credit card minimum
  
  
• Making money → more bills appear
  
  

Once is a fluke.
Twice is a pattern.
Three times = subconscious belief.

The Three Roots of All Limiting Beliefs (34:20)

Every limiting belief is rooted in:

• Safety
  
  
• Control
  
  
• Acceptance
  
  

Society often rewards struggle and being a “trier,” but not success.

Conscious vs Unconscious Manifestation (36:00)

I live by one simple rule:

“That which is conscious manifests happily.
That which is unconscious manifests unhappily.”

Unhappy patterns aren’t punishment — they’re feedback.

Interrupting Old Patterns — Parenting Example (38:00)

Recently, my boys (8 and 4) were fighting constantly. I realized I was starting my day with an eye roll.

So I chose a different state.

I walked up to them like a happy puppy:
“Oh my gosh, I’m so happy to see you!”

Intentionally shifting my state allowed me to parent from a different consciousness.

Identity Is Repetition — Not Affirmation (42:00)

Identity sticks through repeating:

• Behavior
  
  
• Physiology
  
  
• Embodied action
  
  

Not words.

This is how you become transformation instead of just thinking about it.

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🎙 Closing Invitation (47:30)

As always:

Own your throne.
Mind your business.
Your reign is now.