How to Be the Coach, Mentor + Leader You Know You're Meant to Be
What if your most powerful coaching certification isn’t on a wall—but in your scars?
In this soul-stirring episode of the Crown Yourself podcast, Kimberly Spencer pulls back the curtain on what it really means to lead from embodied sovereignty. Drawing on her own raw and radiant journey—from postpartum shifts to a full pivot in her agency—Kimberly unpacks the truth behind transformational leadership: it’s not about perfection, it’s about presence.
She reveals how leaders are born not from accolades, but from alchemy—the kind that transmutes life’s toughest lessons into purpose-driven gold. You’ll hear Kimberly’s intimate story of letting go of 85% of her team, navigating a cashflow crisis, and choosing to speak from her scars (not her wounds) in service to others. If you’ve ever doubted your readiness or felt disqualified by your imperfections, this episode is your spiritual permission slip.
Expect empowering metaphors (hello, lotus rising), sovereign truth-telling, and a high-frequency invitation to claim your seat at the table of conscious leadership. You’ll leave activated to share your story, refine your message, and rise with the energy of someone who’s been through the arena—and chose to lead anyway.
🔥 Ready to reign? Let’s rise.
Enjoy, sovereigns!
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Quotes:
"Speak from scars, not wounds." ~ Kimberly Spencer
“You don’t need another certification. You need embodiment.” ~ Kimberly Spencer
"When you’re successful, don't just rely on your reps." ~ Kimberly Spencer
Moments of Note:
[00:00] Welcome to the Crown Yourself Podcast
Kimberly Spencer: You don't need another certificate. You need embodiment. Welcome to the Crown Yourself podcast, where together we build your empire and transform your subconscious stories about what's possible for your business, body, and life...
[03:00] YouTube as a Catalyst for Embodied Leadership
Kimberly Spencer: I'm giddy with excitement first and foremost, because The Crown Yourself podcast is now officially on YouTube... So for today, we are going to be talking about this moment of stepping up into being the coach, the mentor, the leader you know you're meant to be...
[06:00] Feminine Leadership and Legacy: Leading for the Next Generation
Kimberly Spencer: Having my daughter, I am seeing so much of how I want her to see women and what I want her to see as a coach, as a mentor, as a leader... And that takes courage and it takes courage to do things before you're ready...
[09:00] Embodied Leadership: Turning Life Into Leadership
Kimberly Spencer: Real leaders actually come from a place of embodiment... And it comes from a place of acknowledging, okay, I am not where I want to be yet, but that doesn't disqualify the heaps of experience, the heaps of trainings and certifications and life that I have lived...
[12:30] Speak from Scars, Not Wounds: Why Integration Matters
Kimberly Spencer: Claim your story as your curriculum. Speak from your scars, not your wounds... Sharing from a healed perspective—rather than an emotionally charged one—empowers your clients.
[16:00] Behind the Pivot: My Cashflow Scar and the Birth of a New Model
Kimberly Spencer: I just got off of a podcast called Building Healthy Relationships Before Habits... and on that podcast I shared the cashflow transition and the complete pivot that we had in our guest podcasting agency, Communication Queens...
[19:00] Financial Empowerment: Why Women Must Talk About Profit and Cashflow
Kimberly Spencer: Once you start hitting certain revenue markers, the next thing that you actually need to focus on is profit and cash flow... And once I healed the shame and, like, healed the guilt, I now can speak about that from a place of authenticity...
[23:00] Normalize the Hard: Speaking Truth in Leadership
Kimberly Spencer: The more we can speak to the tough decisions, not the highlight reel, but the tough decisions that we have to make that form our scars... that's where you as a coach, as a mentor, as a leader, that's where you show up in your genius zone.
[26:30] Practice to Embody: Sharpening Your Message Through Reps
Kimberly Spencer: You want to practice the message. And this comes with coaching, with mentorship, with leadership... Whether it's asking ChatGPT or practicing with friends, getting in your reps refines your presence.
[29:00] TEDx and the Power of Repetition in Speaking
Kimberly Spencer: When I did my TEDx talk, I had three weeks to prepare... I also had done, up to that point, 105 podcast interviews to get in my reps to communicate that specific message...
[32:00] Don’t Let “Good Enough” Steal Your Energy or Presence
Kimberly Spencer: On the other side, for those established speakers and leaders... if you stop showing presence and full energy into what you do, they’re going to say something changed...
[34:00] Gym Wisdom: Why Performance Without Energy Fails
Kimberly Spencer: You see those people at the gym doing the same routine every day, no growth. That’s what happens when you just “do the reps” without energy. It’s not about just showing up—it’s how you show up.
[37:00] Final Invitation: Claim Your Voice, Claim Your Throne
Kimberly Spencer: If you want to take this conversation to the next level... then jump into our membership, the collective... As always, my fellow sovereigns, own your throne. Mind your business. Because your reign is now.
Key Takeaways
You don’t need another certification—you need embodiment.
Share from your scars, not your wounds.
Your story is your greatest teaching tool.
Practice your message with energy and presence.
Leadership is not about perfection, it’s about sovereignty.
👑 Ready to reign? Listen to the full episode now and join the collective: https://www.crownyourself.com/the-collective
Transcript:
[00:00] Welcome to the Crown Yourself Podcast
Kimberly Spencer: You don't need another certificate. You need embodiment. Welcome to the Crown Yourself podcast, where together we build your empire and transform your subconscious stories about what's possible for your business, body, and life...
Why YouTube Was the First Step in Embodied Leadership
[03:00]
Kimberly Spencer: I'm giddy with excitement first and foremost, because The Crown Yourself podcast is now officially on YouTube... So for today, we are going to be talking about this moment of stepping up into being the coach, the mentor, the leader you know you're meant to be...
Modeling Feminine Leadership for the Next Generation
[06:00]
Kimberly Spencer: Having my daughter, I am seeing so much of how I want her to see women and what I want her to see as a coach, as a mentor, as a leader... And that takes courage and it takes courage to do things before you're ready...
Embodied Leadership Means Using Your Story
[09:00]
Kimberly Spencer: Real leaders actually come from a place of embodiment... And it comes from a place of acknowledging, okay, I am not where I want to be yet, but that doesn't disqualify the heaps of experience, the heaps of trainings and certifications and life that I have lived...
Scar Stories vs. Open Wounds
[12:30]
Kimberly Spencer: Claim your story as your curriculum. Speak from your scars, not your wounds... Sharing from a healed perspective—rather than an emotionally charged one—empowers your clients.
My Cashflow Pivot: A Personal Scar
[16:00]
Kimberly Spencer: I just got off of a podcast called Building Healthy Relationships Before Habits... and on that podcast I shared the cashflow transition and the complete pivot that we had in our guest podcasting agency, Communication Queens...
Why Women Need to Talk About Cashflow
[19:00]
Kimberly Spencer: Once you start hitting certain revenue markers, the next thing that you actually need to focus on is profit and cash flow... And once I healed the shame and, like, healed the guilt, I now can speak about that from a place of authenticity...
Normalizing the Hard Conversations
[23:00]
Kimberly Spencer: The more we can speak to the tough decisions, not the highlight reel, but the tough decisions that we have to make that form our scars... that's where you as a coach, as a mentor, as a leader, that's where you show up in your genius zone.
The Power of Practice in Leadership
[26:30]
Kimberly Spencer: You want to practice the message. And this comes with coaching, with mentorship, with leadership... Whether it's asking ChatGPT or practicing with friends, getting in your reps refines your presence.
Why Repetition Builds Resonance
[29:00]
Kimberly Spencer: When I did my TEDx talk, I had three weeks to prepare... I also had done, up to that point, 105 podcast interviews to get in my reps to communicate that specific message...
Don’t Let “Good Enough” Dilute Your Energy
[32:00]
Kimberly Spencer: On the other side, for those established speakers and leaders... if you stop showing presence and full energy into what you do, they’re going to say something changed...
The Gym Metaphor: Presence vs. Performance
[34:00]
Kimberly Spencer: You see those people at the gym doing the same routine every day, no growth. That’s what happens when you just “do the reps” without energy. It’s not about just showing up—it’s how you show up.
Final Thoughts: Claim Your Voice, Claim Your Throne
[37:00]
Kimberly Spencer: If you want to take this conversation to the next level... then jump into our membership, the collective... As always, my fellow sovereigns, own your throne. Mind your business. Because your reign is now.
Ready to reign? Listen to the full episode now and join the collective: https://www.crownyourself.com/the-collective